" Life sucks." - Alfred Huete
" It's better than the alternative." - W.Daner
" Prove it." - Alfred Huete
How much does the average person need in life to keep on living ? WHAT KEEPS YOU AROUND ? Can the world really be as sad as it seems ? Can anyone find an answer to that question and not jump off a bridge or eat a bullet ?
A lot of very intelligent, creative and successful people have concluded that life sucks. Many of them decided that their lives were unbearable and comitted suicide.
But, as one who has been that route, and may in fact go that route again to its inevitable destination, I have given the subject a lot of thought.
I don't believe that many people who find their lives miserable really WANT to end it. I think that they believe instead that death is their only option. They think they are a burden on those they care about, or that things are only going to get worse, that the pleasures others seem to enjoy are closed to them, or that, for some reason they don't deserve to live. I'm sure there are other reasons too, that life becomes hard to bear.
Sometimes this kind of despair is a matter of brain chemistry. I can testify that, in such cases, medication, professionally prescribed can make you wonder why you ever had such thoughts.
In other cases, medication and therapy or self examination, while it may not change your mind that life is bad, can help you realize that the despair may be an illusion, that the life that sucks may not be the life you have to put up with.
Simple changes can have miraculous results. Daring to do something you have never done; trying what you have always thought you could not do, can change your whole outlook. What those changes are depends on you, on what you have feared to do, on what you have always assumed you could not do.
Do you suppose that a beautiful girl could never be interested in you? Then, pretend that you are fascinating, irresistible, and introduce yourself to the most beautiful girl you see. Sick of your job? Go after the job you've always dreamed of having. Tired of sitting around doing nothing? Hike the Appalacian Trail. Take up body building, paint, write, build a cabin in the woods. Do anything that you have not done before.
The beautiful girl may tell you to fuck off. You may never get that dream job. Hiking may just give you blisters. But even trying and failing will educate you about life, even failure opens doors to success and can show the way to contentment.
So what if one beautiful girl tells you to get lost? You made a pass at her and the world didn't end. There are millions of pretty girls and now you know you can keep trying until maybe one of them doesn't turn you down.My problems in that area is not that I get turned down,I rarely do but rather after a perfectly lovely start , promises get broken,lies become the norm and right when I think I found my soulmate she decides to rape my soul for shit and giggles.So I lick my wounds,take 'time out' and try again.Think that's nonsense? It very well could be but my need to believe that I will be loved and will loved again keeps me alive.For better or worse,it keeps me going.
Trying something new, doing what you've never done before, even if you fail, is a kind of inertia -- it gets you moving. It starts you changing things, and changing life, even in the smallest way, can change it from misery to something not so miserable, something with bits of contentment in it to look forward to and to work for.
I'm no Pollyanna. Life's no banquet for anybody and never will be, but it can have its good points, and enough of them to stick around for. You're going to die soon enough -- maybe sooner than you realize. In the meantime, you might as well shop around this life and see if there might be some point to seeing it through.
A lot of very intelligent, creative and successful people have concluded that life sucks. Many of them decided that their lives were unbearable and comitted suicide. But many, many more of them found things in life that, in spite of its pointlessness and misery, were enough to make it worth living.
I'm trying to find reasons to stick around,so far I have found a few.Too few ? I don't know but I do know I simply do not have the luxury to stop looking.
For better or worse,chances are you do not either.
- Alfred Huete
06 August 2010
" It's better than the alternative." - W.Daner
" Prove it." - Alfred Huete
How much does the average person need in life to keep on living ? WHAT KEEPS YOU AROUND ? Can the world really be as sad as it seems ? Can anyone find an answer to that question and not jump off a bridge or eat a bullet ?
A lot of very intelligent, creative and successful people have concluded that life sucks. Many of them decided that their lives were unbearable and comitted suicide.
But, as one who has been that route, and may in fact go that route again to its inevitable destination, I have given the subject a lot of thought.
I don't believe that many people who find their lives miserable really WANT to end it. I think that they believe instead that death is their only option. They think they are a burden on those they care about, or that things are only going to get worse, that the pleasures others seem to enjoy are closed to them, or that, for some reason they don't deserve to live. I'm sure there are other reasons too, that life becomes hard to bear.
Sometimes this kind of despair is a matter of brain chemistry. I can testify that, in such cases, medication, professionally prescribed can make you wonder why you ever had such thoughts.
In other cases, medication and therapy or self examination, while it may not change your mind that life is bad, can help you realize that the despair may be an illusion, that the life that sucks may not be the life you have to put up with.
Simple changes can have miraculous results. Daring to do something you have never done; trying what you have always thought you could not do, can change your whole outlook. What those changes are depends on you, on what you have feared to do, on what you have always assumed you could not do.
Do you suppose that a beautiful girl could never be interested in you? Then, pretend that you are fascinating, irresistible, and introduce yourself to the most beautiful girl you see. Sick of your job? Go after the job you've always dreamed of having. Tired of sitting around doing nothing? Hike the Appalacian Trail. Take up body building, paint, write, build a cabin in the woods. Do anything that you have not done before.
The beautiful girl may tell you to fuck off. You may never get that dream job. Hiking may just give you blisters. But even trying and failing will educate you about life, even failure opens doors to success and can show the way to contentment.
So what if one beautiful girl tells you to get lost? You made a pass at her and the world didn't end. There are millions of pretty girls and now you know you can keep trying until maybe one of them doesn't turn you down.My problems in that area is not that I get turned down,I rarely do but rather after a perfectly lovely start , promises get broken,lies become the norm and right when I think I found my soulmate she decides to rape my soul for shit and giggles.So I lick my wounds,take 'time out' and try again.Think that's nonsense? It very well could be but my need to believe that I will be loved and will loved again keeps me alive.For better or worse,it keeps me going.
Trying something new, doing what you've never done before, even if you fail, is a kind of inertia -- it gets you moving. It starts you changing things, and changing life, even in the smallest way, can change it from misery to something not so miserable, something with bits of contentment in it to look forward to and to work for.
I'm no Pollyanna. Life's no banquet for anybody and never will be, but it can have its good points, and enough of them to stick around for. You're going to die soon enough -- maybe sooner than you realize. In the meantime, you might as well shop around this life and see if there might be some point to seeing it through.
A lot of very intelligent, creative and successful people have concluded that life sucks. Many of them decided that their lives were unbearable and comitted suicide. But many, many more of them found things in life that, in spite of its pointlessness and misery, were enough to make it worth living.
I'm trying to find reasons to stick around,so far I have found a few.Too few ? I don't know but I do know I simply do not have the luxury to stop looking.
For better or worse,chances are you do not either.
- Alfred Huete
06 August 2010
